Making room for grief after the Death of A Child....

I saw this statement in an article this morning "In order for us to successfully navigate grief we need to have both the time and space to deal with it."  The word that caught my eye was "SPACE".  Most of my adult life I have taken care of someone or something; I was a fixer - a "go to" person.  This past December I was so wrapped up in fixing family problems; I was suffocating.  It made the grief journey impossible to navigate; I was losing my footing - retreating more and more into myself.  I made a conscious decision to pull back from being the person who solves everyone's problem.  I made myself a priority!!!!!! Gave myself permission to be selfish and focus on me.  Grief is exhausting and tiring.  We need to honor ourselves in the process and strip away ALL unnecessary obligations in our lives....